Marital discord and divorce rates are on the rise in most of the countries, including the developing nations like India. Marriage is a social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc. This is the dictionary definition of marriage. Most people enter into the marital relationship with the best of intentions and commitment and believe that it will be a happy, stable and permanent union. No one marries with a divorce plan in hand. The newly-weds start off their lives on a happy and cheerful note, regarding each other with great importance and are supporting and reinforcing each other. But this support may decrease or become defunct over time leading to marital discord and troubled relationship. Somewhere in this spectrum may be present simple lack of intimacy and overall decrease in quality of the marriage without much signs of a discord or dispute. There can be a breach of trust by an extra-marital affair by one of the spouses. The whole institution of marriage appears to come crashing down in such situations. This is where the role of marital therapy comes in.
A marital therapist or a counselor will be working with a couple and devising methods to increase intimacy, weeding out the negative elements and hence increasing the quality of marriage. Marital therapy is a form of psychological therapy used to help couples in some form of relationship distress or to those couples who are in a committed relationship/marriage and want to enhance their intimacy.
It can be helpful for both individuals and couples and can be applied both Pre-martially and/or after marriage. The best part is that it does not involve the use of medicines.
A marital therapist will be a person who will tell you the benefits of staying TOGETHER in marriage when you and/or your friends might be of the opinion that all is lost and nothing can be done!
The concept of Marriage counseling or marital therapy is relatively new to India (though not very new), Compared to more than forty thousand marriage counsellors or therapists in US and Canada.
A psychiatrist is a first choice when we think of counseling. The doctor/therapist concerned should have both training and interest in working with the marital relationship. We may also need a physician if there is a general or systemic disorder present. Noteworthy here is presence of Diabetes, Hypertension (High BP), Stroke etc which may lead to Impotence, Physical incapacitation etc further leading onto depression and marital problems.
Physical fitness is very essential for good mental health and hence for marital fitness. We may need to see a physician to rule out and treat if any of such conditions exist. Now, I explain the concept of a marriage counselor or therapist. Such a therapist uses the power of counseling and behavioural modification, normally without the use of medicines so as to create a more harmonious marriage. Marital therapists are from two basic fields i.e. Psychology and Psychiatry. So if one visits a Psychiatrist who has training and interest in Marriage guidance, then it is a good option. On the other hand if one visits a Psychologist, there may be a need for an additional reference/consultation with a Psychiatrist and/or a physician. So these are your choices. Well, I am an MD Physician in practice for more than eight years after my MD. I have special interest in counseling and for that I have taken training in counseling and have enhanced my knowledge and skills by reading extensive literature on the subject of counseling in general and marital therapy in specific. I am regularly counseling and treating couples in marital/pre-marital distress for more than three years now. I am an Affiliate Member of AAMFT (American Association of Marital & Family Therapists) which is a body dedicated to this field for more than three decades. I am also member of IAFT, New Delhi, the national level body dedicated to field of family therapy in India for more than a decade. So, if We work together, I can provide you the benefits of all three of consultants as mentioned above. I will prefer to work with you and avoid usage of any medicines, but if need be I am fully competent to prescribe medicines that may be needed for full recovery. I have a great interest and inclination to work with individuals that have relationship problems and hence it will be foremost on my mind to salvage any relationships that I can so as to make life happier for people around me.
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